BECKY’S DAIRIES: THE CROSS ROAD

Many people pretend to know what we are going through, but in actual fact, they have no idea. They are either insulting you in their minds or pretending to be listening to your story. Well, thank God I have you to listen to me.

Years ago, I was a student in my first cycle institution, close to leaving the Junior High School, Final Examination was close. Everybody is seriously preparing for the big ambitions of attending the very popular schools that everyone wished for. There was nothing to care about. Life was full of all the fun you can think of.

I happen to be the only hope of my parents after my senior siblings arrogantly and stubbornly got themselves pregnant in Senior High School.

My parents were happy their teenage girl was leaving Junior High School for Senior High School. The promises to be fulfilled if I get my first choice were enormous. All eyes on me. I was the only chance of my parents getting a university graduate as a daughter. They really cared. “You need to learn”, “make us proud” were my rising and sleeping bells. My parents repeated it as though they were the only words left in the world.  Unknown to them, I have my own idea of what I wanted to turn out.

My dreams were not in the classroom. I was one of the best Mathematics students in my school; however, I wasn’t ready to spend decades in school to become successful. To my parents, make good grades, graduate with a good class from the university, get a good job and if you are a woman, get married. But I wanted otherwise. I wanted to be popular, famous and rich.

For all my ideas of fame and popularity, I had no plan to how I wanted to achieve that. I just knew it. But how will I tell Mum and Dad? How will I tell my educationists of parents of this idea that is far from anything they believe in?

I did not want to disappoint them too. I wanted them to be happy, but not in the way they wanted it. I had to find the balance between pleasing my parents and making myself happy; being an actress.

If my memory serves me right, the first time I mentioned an actress as my role model, my dad was so infuriated. I could see the disappointment right in his eyes.

In Senior High School, I joined the drama club to learn my passion and what I believe was my talent. I casted numerous plays from Juliet in the popular Shakespearean tragic romantic drama, “Romeo and Juliet” to playing Queen Ojuola, Odewale’s wife and Mother in Ola Rotimi’s “The God’s are Not to blame,” and many more.

Few months after I have left Senior High School, I met this middle-aged man who could not find words to describe my talent on stage. He made me feel proud and noticed. He saw something in me and made me feel I was twice better than the greatest actresses.  Finally, I found someone who sees me even better than I, myself. The best part was that he was a renowned movie director.

He assisted me in numerous ways. And as I write, he has landed me a big contract to cast in an upcoming movie.

As a High school leaver, this is one of biggest opportunities for me to become the star I have always dreamt of; taking the talent from the stage to the screens. However, I cannot make any decision because, I have parents who are yet to come to terms with acting as a profession and very much despise the idea of female actresses. To them, acting makes females promiscuous and puts them in a position of none privacy.

They believe in education and not some profession you can get in trouble with. To them, the popularity, fame, acting, nudity and the likes puts you out there to the world and makes you vulnerable to men. The whole world knows your privacy, dictates to you how to live your life. From their understanding, acting is indecent and it’s enough that their other daughters have shamed them, no need for the third to do same and even worse.

I am at a cross road, confused at what road to take. Your advice can help a young girl make a decision for the future. What do I do?

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47 thoughts on “BECKY’S DAIRIES: THE CROSS ROAD

  1. I think you should do what will make you happy. because from where you have gotten to you can’t go back to start all over again. explain things to your parents and they will understand. take care and and above all, pray ardently towards it. all the best

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  2. Sit your parents down and tell theme ur plans ND how u feel about they pressuring into education and also abt the contract

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  3. Listen to your parents. They are to guide and guard you for the best in life for you. This my dear, is the wish of every parent.
    So please listen to them. for they mean you no harm

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  4. Talk to your parents about your dreams. You have to help them get rid of the misconception they have about actresses. You can be a decent actress and you can as well make them proud of you as an actress. Above all, know what God’s will for your life is, ask Him to lead you.

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  5. My dear some time Our all dreams can’t be true nd some times some thing do as i wish
    In this condition
    Listen every one but do as your heart like
    May god bless you

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  6. My dear, I would advice you to follow your heart and make your dream come true. Your parents may not agree with you but trust me I’ve been in that same cross road you are now and when you make it big and prove to them that all the said about actresses may be true but yours is different, they will be proud of you. But the only thing is, chase both dreams, continue schooling for your parents as they wish and let them be happy while you make your dream a reality as well. And let your director understand you so that he can help you. This is my idea.

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  7. They have said it all dear. The only thing that can give you fulfilment in life is you identifying your passion and following it. That is not to say you should stop schooling. Find a way to combine the two. Follow your passion or else you will regret it one day.

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  8. I think you have the responsibility to explain clearly to your parents what being an actress really means. Doing this will help to eliminate their misconceptions about the profession. You can do so by even citing some actresses who are very decent but have, nevertheless,succeeded in their careers. You should also note that chasing your talent does not mean you should abandon your education. I entreat you to combine the two and you gonna excel.

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  9. I think you should do both. Be who you want to be and also pursue the education. If you are not educated that much you will not be able to discern and make firm decision even in the signing of contracts.

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  10. I think you have to sit your parents down and tell them otherwise you will end up doing want you dnt want and as far as I know you can never succeed in what you don’t have passion for.

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  11. The fact that you want to be an actress does not resign you to the fact that you can not continue your education. You can do both simultaneously. My advice to you is that never give up on your dreams; that’s what even makes us humans, and for your parents I don’t think this idea is awkward enough for them to compromise. Just talk to them,they will understand

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  12. Considering the negative impacts that being a star has had in the life of some actresses and actors, you shud pray about this and figure out if this is your true calling. . If you decide to listen to your heart and move on to live out this dream simply because you love stardom, you could be making a mistake. Just humble yourself for Him to raise you instead of doing it yourself dear. Si c’est sa volonté, tout ira bien ma cherie 👌👍

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  13. Beautiful story u have. Pleasing ur parents at the expence of ur dream can lead to depression and other consequences. What is ur take on acting and popularity, if u have genuine opinion to counter them y not; slow down pick all ur degree and look more attractive or better still pick ur degree get a job and act along side if u believe in parents blessing so u don’t loose to fame which might look “worldly “. Its a free world but our believes work.

    Looking forward for the next blog

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  14. As the saying goes, “A child who climbs to the apex of a tree cannot see what an elderly man sees when he’s squatting”. In my opinion, go with the counsel of your parents. They want nothing, but the best for you and get rid of the idea that being an actress is the only way to achieve fame… (There are so many ways in killing a cat)

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  15. I would definitely advice you to do that which would make you happy but in our part of the world when you’re neglected by family you’re more vulnerable and your case would become worse if your parents neglect you because you’re quite young. So to say the least since they are the ones who care for you then you’ve to listen to them at least for now and attend the school for them later you can switch into acting at your will.

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  17. Its ur life so gather sone courage and sit with them and pour ur heart out cus they r ur parents and they will always want the best for u so talk to them and they will understand

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