Love comes in various forms. Sometimes, it comes when you are not ready, and leaves when you need it most. But that is for those who really enjoy their relationships. That is why in most cases, it ends with sad moments.  This one is a mixed reaction story with a very rare ending, one that not most of you will relate to.

I meet this guy, head over heels, saying to myself, this could probably be the genesis of a new chapter of no blue mood. In combat with myself, I couldn’t accept it just yet; something so sweet and true. As skeptical as I am, that’s too good to be true. I have been hurt a thousand times that the opening of a new chapter seems to be another played by life’s tricks. I’m alert.

After some persistent expression of his feeling and professes of love, I finally gave in. Right in front of me, the guy of my dreams, the one who fits everywhere in my long list. The only problem was, I am older than him. ‘How old are you?’ ‘I am 20’ he says, and I am 22. He is young, something I have been against in relationship setting. ‘Age is just a number’, that’s what everyone says. But that ‘number’ causes a lot more than just problems, sometimes break-ups.

I found a love for me, which can’t be reached now.

Aside his age, he was a friend of a friend who loved me so much and has expressed in so many words but I don’t feel the same way and made things clear to him. I can’t come in between two friends. I thought I was doing the right thing but then realized that I could give myself a chance at happiness at least.

I have a fragile heart so am pretty much hard on guys, but this time, it was different.  My usual posture of shielding myself from getting hurt was overshadowed by the unimaginable chemistry that existed at the time. I felt it so strong. I couldn’t call it love then, yet I knew I was drowned in it. ‘I think about you all the time,’ ‘I can’t live without you’ and so many other clichés of lovers meant nothing to me till I met you. I foolishly and shyly smile thinking about you.

I defied all the wrong reasons and decided to be with you. Being pessimistic was one of things I wanted to avoid. I gave myself all the right reasons and even turned the wrongs to right because, I wanted to embrace happiness. Sadly, I was hit. Hit so hard that rising up became banter between me and myself. He was a liar and a cheat. He had a girlfriend all this while.

Surprised? Well if you are not, then you must be more experienced than I am. The pain and hurt, I couldn’t take.


‘You are never cheating until you are caught’, those were your words some time past. Realized now that it wasn’t one of your jokes; you meant those words and had no hesitation in pouring them out. Now I ask myself if you ever will regret what you did. Many signs prove you never will.

How could you give both girls so much attention? Well I don’t know if you gave your girlfriend much attention but for me, I couldn’t ask for more. You must be really good at this game.

This heartbreak is close to the hardest I have had.

When I subsequently probed if you had a girlfriend and you answered me sincerely, ‘yes’ and I liked that you didn’t lie. Your next step, I expected to be why you never told me, instead you were vehemently enquiring how I knew. Couldn’t you be selfless at least? The fact that someone’s feelings and hurt was on the line, wasn’t close to anything you cared about?

After ignoring his attempt to find out how I knew, his next words were ‘Silence is good too, but break it by telling me who told you, else expect nothing comparable to a reply from me’.

Really? How heartless could you be? ‘I’m out’.

You were sweet, loving, kind, intelligent, super funny and a great storyteller but dominating, honey.

Guess I was foolish and blind. Love really blinds its victims until the unexpected moment. You got me thinking real hard boy! This is harder than I imagined heartbreak would be. I have no justification to get mad, maybe if I had listened to my other self, I would have avoided this pain.

Getting over the pain hasn’t been easy, I have tried everything including mocking myself in front of the mirror as a way of putting that light back in me but guess what… I cried harder than ever. Everyday got sadder. I’m such a waste!

I don’t need an apology from you because I’ve already forgiven you. What I need is obliviousness to forget all the things that make me feel stupid. But there is nothing like that, is there? What I can do is express myself through words. We are now the closest strangers in the world.

You gave me something, and I have no idea what to call it. But it was the best lesson I have learnt as a growing woman. Our texts are now breakfast to me. I would read them over and over; you always knew the right thing to say. I will always remember you because you are too perfect to forget. And though I am hurt it’s okay because I met you; I couldn’t be more grateful for the lessons. I have realized that I went into you deeper than I thought.

The memories are well-heeled.



  1. Well,love ❤ is a filling one can’t explain but if u love someone just let the person know and don’t think all guys are the same.Probably this new relationship will work just believe in it.

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  2. Aaarghnn… How sweet and touching your expressions are… Don’t worry, he ain’t know what he’s lost.. 😊keep up the good writing..


    • U can’t forget about the past, stop looking at the negative sides and concentrate more on the good sides. This is the beauty of life. Just confidently go in for what u love and enjoy it while it last. Best way to Enjoy life to the fullest. Love ur story bit don’t b too hard on itself.


  3. It’s very sad this happens, but for me I always ask, if u dnt give it a try how will you know this is for real. Love indeed can b a good and a bad thing

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  4. There are still good and God fearing guys out there who are different from the time wasters that you can mingle with 😉. Well, maybe you didn’t take time to study and know this guys very well. If you had done so, you could have learnt a lot about him. Always pray to see the face of God before giving in to his proposal if only you want a long term relationship that will lead to marriage. In your case you chose a small young heartbreaker instead of a matured guy buh don’t be hard on yourself. You didn’t know it would happen that way. Don’t give up on love ma Cherie, ce qui reste est plus que ce qui est passé. Oublie le passé et concentre-toi sur ton avenir👍


  5. To have a young heartbreaker is better than an older one.He would have broken your bones as well lol.Anyway this is life,its nt easy.This is how u learn to deal with it.U have to be strong to face it and let go when u really have to.Before marriage u need to be in a number of relationships to know all the tricks.Move on my dear

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  6. Hmmmmmmm. This word called luv cn sometimes lead u into certain things. Bt in all, life still goes on dear. Hearts broken at a young age i will say is better than whn u re older nd u thk u hv more experience,that is where its unforgetable.Grt wrk done.

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  7. Its quiet touchy and painted we the guys as the ones always responsible for “broken heart”. But trust me, the ladies are worse of in our era…….


  8. Love on it own is a dicey thing not all get to experience it….It beautiful with the right person and painful with the wrong person but what can we do? We only learn from the past but unfortunately we tend to forget all we learn when we find someone who cherishes us( from experience) it good to get hurt sometimes it wakes you up. Finally it makes us grow…. Lovely piece can’t wait to read all of your write-ups. I take my hat off to you my dear.


  9. True Love is whn u’re ready to be vulnerable to the other person regardless of the consequences, Love with a guarded heart isn’t Love. But it sure goes both ways.when u find a man who is ready to be vulnerable with everything he has and his Heart you’ve found a keeper. So here’s the question, wht wld u do if u’re caught between 2 guys, one loves you more than u love him and the other u love him more than he loves u,who wld u choose?


  10. Well I’m not in the best position to talk about ‘LOVE’ but I think it’s bittersweet. Just embrace it when it’s sweet and be strong enough to let go and move on when it gets bitter.
    Awesome piece becky


  11. Hmmmm this link was sent to me by my guy… we met not long ago.. I think I really love him but don’t know how to show my love to him..coz I have been hurt before so I don’t wanna open up. But your piece is nice. Go girl


  12. Sometimes, I tend to wonder what the purpose of love is. Per my estimation, those who get hurt are more than those who enjoy love. Take heart and put yourself together. I’m pretty sure there’s someone out there willing to treat you right. It’s just a matter of time!

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